Can a Bride Have a Best Man? Wedding Roles Explained Simply

Alright, so you’re askin’ me, can a bride have a best man? Well, I reckon it’s like this, times are changin’, ain’t they? Back in my day, things were pretty set in stone. Brides had their maids of honor, and grooms had their best man. But these young folks, they like to do things different, and I say, good for them!

Why not have a best man if you’re a bride? If a girl wants her brother or her best friend, even if he’s a fella, standin’ up there with her, who’s to say she can’t? It ain’t about what you call ’em, it’s about havin’ someone you trust by your side on your big day.

You see, this whole weddin’ thing, it’s supposed to be about love and support. So, if a bride feels like her best support comes from a fella, well then, he should be her best man, plain and simple. Don’t get all hung up on what’s “traditional.” Tradition’s just what people did a long time ago. It don’t mean it’s the only way, or even the best way, to do things.

He can help plan stuff, you know, like the bachelor party… or bachelorette party, I guess, if it’s for the bride.
He can keep the groom calm, or in this case, maybe keep the bride’s parents calm. Lord knows, weddings can make folks a bit jittery.
He can give a speech. Now, that’s important. A good speech can make a weddin’ special, make people laugh and cry a little bit.

Now, some folks might get confused. They might say, “But ain’t the best man supposed to be for the groom?” Well, sure, that’s how it usually is, but who says it has to be? Life ain’t always black and white, there’s a whole lotta gray in between. And weddings, well, they can be any color you want ‘em to be.

If the bride wants a best man, then he’s her best man. It’s her weddin’, ain’t it? She gets to choose who stands up there with her. And if that person happens to be a fella, well, then that’s just fine. He can still do all the things a best man does. He can help plan the party, he can hold the rings, he can give a toast. It don’t matter if he’s a man or a woman, what matters is that he’s there for the bride, supportin’ her and lovin’ her.

I’ve seen all sorts of things at weddings these days. I’ve seen dogs as ring bearers, I’ve seen grandmas as flower girls. So, a bride having a best man? That don’t seem so strange to me. It’s all about what makes the couple happy. And if havin’ a best man by her side makes the bride happy, then that’s all that matters.

And let me tell you somethin’ else, this whole “maid of honor” thing, it’s just a name. You can call her the “bride’s attendant,” you can call her the “right-hand woman,” you can call her whatever you want. It’s the same with the best man. He’s the bride’s support, her rock, her best friend. That’s what’s important, not the title. So if a bride wants a “best man,” she can have a best man. It’s her day, her choice. And frankly, anybody who says otherwise is just plain stuck in the mud.

So, to answer your question, yes, a bride can absolutely have a best man. And if anyone gives you a funny look about it, you just tell ‘em that old lady down the road said it’s perfectly alright. Because it is. It’s all about love and support, and that’s somethin’ everyone can understand, no matter how old-fashioned they are. And remember, it’s about makin’ the bride and groom, or in this case, maybe two brides, happy on their special day. That’s the only thing that truly matters, not what some old book says about who should stand where.

In the end, it’s all about love and support. If a bride feels best supported by a man as her “best man,” then that’s what she should have. Don’t let anyone tell you different. It’s her day, and she gets to make the rules. And that’s somethin’ I can definitely get behind.